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Dear Son,
I am writing this to you because of 3 reasons...... 

Life, fortune and mishaps
 are unpredictable, nobody knows how long he lives. Some words are better said early. 
I am your father, and if I don't tell you these, no one else will. 

What is written is my own personal bitter and better experiences that perhaps could save you a lot of unnecessary heartaches. 








Remember the following as you go through life.... 

  1. Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother and I. To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really likes you. You have to be careful, don't hastily regard him as a real friend. 
  2. No one is indispensable, nothing in the world that you must possess. Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don't want you anymore, or when you lose what / who you love most. 
  3. Life is short and every day counts. Do not look for another day or event or person or a thing to give you happiness.Staying happy is your decision and you can be happy in any situation, if you desire to be so. Trust me, I have lost a major part of my life waiting for "something from some to happen at some time" to give me happiness. Finally, I have realized that "something is my decision to stay happy and enjoy life", that "some one" who can give me happiness is myself and that "some time" is "now" and ever. Trust me I feel like being a new born and wish that I realized it 39 years ago. Better late than never. I would advice you to start being happy from today. 
  4. Do not postpone actions. If you have something to do, do it now. Keep saying to yourself "If not me, who". If not now, when?". It is better to finish the work and stay relaxed later.
  5. Love is but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with time and with one's mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness. Don't over exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don't over exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love. 
  6. A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life. One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags! 
  7. Do not worry about failure. Some times, failures can teach you more powerful lessons than the success. The lessons learnt from failure will not be easily forgotten. Learn from your mistakes. Do not repeat mistakes. Make newer ones, so that you can learn new lessons.
  8. I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, either would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, whether rich or poor. 
  9. You honour your words, but don't expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don't expect people to be good to you. If you don't understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles. 
  10. There is no free lunch! Even if you get one, it won't taste as much as the one that you have bought yourself. Do not wait or plan for fortune. Work hard, learn and earn your success. Do not accept "success" as a gift, work your way to "earn" it.
  11. No matter how much time I have with you, let's treasure the time we have together.  
  12. Be thankful for what you have today...Your friends, your belongings, your family and everything...Nothing is permanent. Relish and value them when you have it. If you miss any of them, work your way to earn them back.
  13. Know that every step of your way, your mom and I will be there to support you...We trust you, have faith in you and love you so dearly. We are thankful to God or whatever it is, that gave you to us.
  14. I am not your friend, but your dad. That means that I am more than a friend to you. Trust me and feel free to share anything with me, with out worrying about what I will feel and how I will react. We are here to help you.
  15. Do not worry about others laughing at you. The laughing ones will stay there and you will move on and up your way to success. Do not be distracted from your journey and focus.
  16. There will be some to bully you, but learn to maneuver your way through them and beyond them. If things go out of hand, escalate to your Teacher / Mom / Myself / Police based on the case.




Always affectionately.
Your father

We've all had times when we say yes to someone but really want to say no.

It's often difficult to say no because of the desire to be loved: we want to be helpful, we want to show we care, but we may have little to give, are tired, overworked, or need alone time.
Do you feel that if you aren't there for someone, they may reject you? Or that you're somehow obliged to help as it makes you a ˜good person, parent or friend? Do you ever feel validated by being needed ?

 It's easy to believe that any time you take to relax or meditate is time that could be used elsewhere. But taking time out doesn't mean it is selfish or even wasted time. Think about what happens when your day is spent constantly caring for others. Do you get resentful, irritated, or even angry? Do you find stress building up? Does the quality of care that you offer become affected by that inner tension? Or are you so used to being this way that it seems impossible to imagine being any other way? You may even think you're not the relaxing type, or that if you do relax you won't be able to cope with all the things you have to do.
However, by taking time for yourself, by lowering your blood pressure and releasing stress, you are immediately creating a more harmonious environment that can only benefit all those around you. When you take time out to be quiet it means you don't get so angry, resentful, or frustrated; instead, you connect with who you really are. Then what you share with others is coming from that peaceful space. When you are energized and feeling good you will be able to do far more than if you are dragging yourself through your day with little energy or in a bad mood.
So, rather than being selfish, such activity is actually the least selfish thing you could do! This is when saying no to others means you are affirming yourself. The power of saying no is that you are empowered!








Courtesy : dailytenminutesdotcom



By Junaid Tahir
A friend of mine is CEO of a medium size company, he says that in order to have deep understanding of the work at all levels of the company he tries to work in all domains in the company. This gives him insight of the tasks being done, associated complications, challenges and wisdom to resolve issues and optimize processes. He was telling that the job of their receptionist is tough as it involves a lot of patience. Some weeks back he sat at the reception and received the calls from their clients. Assuming that their call is being attended by the receptionist the customers talked as if they were talking to their servant. They were using harsh, rude or indecent words because of the faults related to the company products. However as soon as he introduced that he is the CEO of the company, the tone of the caller changed immediately.

 
While I listened to this story, I pondered that we all do the same thing in life. Our speaking tone is based on the social, professional or economical status of the person we are talking to. Which simply means that we don't treat people fairly and equally. We have a different way of communication for different people. 

This reminds me of another story: Once a protocol officer asked a lady on how she would greet the Queen of Holland when the Queen visits their city; she said that she has only one set of manner and she uses it all the time and does not want to learn a special protocol to meet and greet the Queen.  

 
So the bottom line is that we should have one set of ethical manners for all. We should be kind, humble and loving equally regardless of the social and educational background, regardless of the current economical and professional post. Humanity deserves equality and all of us should endeavor for the same.  

 

I wrote a similar article earlier about judging people fairly. I believe that if we avoid being judgmental, we will start behaving fairly with all people. Remember, Judging people is the theoretical thing and won't make an external effect until you start showing this to others by treating them unfairly. That means Judging is more of an observatory and thought process stuff whereas treating people is the behavioral and practical thing. Judging wrongly pollutes your brain and treating wrongly pollutes the society hence both should be avoided.

 
So treat the rich and the poor, the attractive and the unattractive, educated, non-educated and less educated all the same, because each one is the creation of God Himself. Each soul requires fairness. How you treat them, is a reflection of what kind of a person you are !